Groomsmen Protocol 101
Several grooms told us that most wedding resources focus on the Bride and forget about the groom! Actually, there is so much information available for Brides that it must be very confusing for both the bride and groom! So we created a simple checklist depicting what is expected of the groom.
We also included Words of Wisdom From Grooms who no doubt learned the hard way!
Select a Best Man who has great organizational skills
He will be assisting you in many areas…
Choose your formalwear merchant and set up an appointment to select the style and colors. Make sure your future Bride attends and agrees. Many Brides want their wedding gown to be a surprise to the Groom, but it doesn't work the other way around!
Make the final selection for your boutonnieres. It is the groom's responsibility to pay for the Bridal Bouquet, and many pay for all of the flowers.
Consider having your wedding bands engraved. Here are some ideas: Semper amemus [Our love is forever], Semper fidelis [Always faithful], Autre ne veux [I think of none other], Forever in Love, and Our love is eternal.
Purchase a combination membership to the gourmet clubs that you'll both enjoy the most together for the bride's wedding gift. Every month you can plan a romantic date with your wife and celebrate your marriage. Compose a poem to accompany the first delivery. Or include a copy of your toast to the bride.
Don't forget the marriage license and your blood tests. Take the lead on managing the honeymoon arrangements and budget. Your Bride has enough to do. Get started early on applications for passports and visas. Handle the details for your first evening as man and wife. Surprise your new wife with flowers [Remember she had to give her bridal bouquet away!] and wine in the hotel suite.
Make security arrangements for the gifts which are delivered to your reception.
Call 1-800-625-8238 and place orders for your Best Man and Groomsmen gifts. We will help you draft special messages and we will create customized Gift Announcements for each of your attendants. Take the time to compose your thoughts… they will be remembered.
Rehearsal dinners are traditionally the responsibility of the Groom's family, and so you will be directly involved in planning that event. If your caterer is not providing the liquor and wine, you may need to delegate that to your Best Man who may delegate it to one of your Groomsmen.
Give checks for the clergyman's fee, musicians fee, etc to your Best Man so he can deliver them just prior to the ceremony.
Give all checks for the officiator's, musicians' or DJ's, photographer's, caterer's fees, etc. to your Best Man so he can get each to the right party.
Confirm everything at least once!