Words of Wisdom From Other Grooms
1. You're about to become a team, so get involved. Your Wedding Day will be so much more memorable and intimate when you have helped to plan it.
2. Do some research so your Bride will have confidence in your judgment right from the start of your marriage. If you are constantly asking your Bride what you are supposed to be doing, you will not inspire her trust.
3. Being prepared and knowledgeable will pay off in many ways… your poise and assurance will put everyone at ease, and the Bride's parents will sense they can count on you.
4. This site has provided a thorough overview of the Groom's responsibilities. If you want a more detailed resource, try The Groom's Survival Manual by Michael R. Perry.
5. Many Grooms don't realize that how you plan your wedding with your Bride is critical to starting your marriage out on the right foot! Weddings can be unsettling for both the Bride and Groom… nerves are on edge, family members are promoting their own agendas, and budgets are never big enough. This is an intense time, but remember, you will be setting your stage for future communication patterns!
6. None of the decisions about the details of your wedding ceremony are as important as the memories you create! This time in your lives will never come again.
7. Review or help compose engagement announcements, wedding invitations, ring inscriptions, marriage vows, and newspaper announcements to reflect your personality and values, as well as the Bride's.
8. Your Bride will undoubtedly become overwhelmed at some point in time… count on it. Although her family, Maid of Honor and Brides Maids may be empathetic, you might be the only resource that can make a difference. Remember you don't have to have all of the answers. Just listening and cuddling may be all it takes.
9. Choosing the Best Man and the Groomsmen are decisions that may required some artful negotiations, since your Bride and her family will have their opinions. Try listing the long-term pros and cons when in doubt.
10. Compose your toast to your Bride as soon as possible. During the months you are preparing for your wedding, you will be able to refine it. Make it memorable enough to frame… she will appreciate you declaring your love.
11. Even though it's traditional that the Bride's family pays most of the expenses, many couples are footing the bills, so managing the budget might end up on your TO DO list. And this task could end up trying your relationship from the getgo. Don't hesitate to get some counseling in how to "argue." It could be the best investment you'll make this year!
12. When you order one of our gourmet clubs for your attendants, you will show them how much you appreciate their friendship and responsibility, many times over and over. You may be changing your life style, but you are not changing your friendships. These guys and gals will be there in time of need.
13. Consider enrolling in dance lessons, or at least practicing, because the first dance at the reception can be uncomfortably long when you are unsure of your ballroom skills.
14. Take charge of moving furniture and belongings, and see that it gets done a week in advance of your wedding. It's important to start your life as newlyweds in an organized, settled environment. You'll have a lot of adjustments to make, so try to think ahead.
15. If you plan to stay at the reception for several hours, consider a late night limousine for the safety of your Bride.
16. Plan to create a private time at the reception, when you can thank your parents and then your Bride's parents. It's a good idea to plan and practice what you are going to say… it will be remembered for a long time.